We grow together: Seven Ways to Fight the Storm with Togetherness

Sisterhood, a beautiful bond of love, faith, and togetherness. Be it sharing the toys in childhood or sharing the last byte of chocolate after the quarrels, sisters are always together in every phase of life. Sometimes, a sister is a friend with whom we can share our heart’s deepest emotions, also, sometimes, a sister is a guide who makes us learn to differentiate between what is right and what is wrong. But for us, we are more like soul companions bonded with the same string of stardust. Today I am going to share our journey of sisterhood with you all.

I want to say a big thank you to my angel. Life has thrown all kinds of colours to our canvas, that’s why we learned to smile together and we learned to cry together, too. We learned together, how to fight a storm with utmost courage and build resilience to overcome the situation.

When it comes to support a woman for her growth: emotional, personal, and professional, we are always the biggest support to each other.

I am the elder sister. Since childhood, I have experienced the feeling of motherhood in the form of a sister many times in life. I have always treated my baby sister as my child. But recently, I saw my little sister growing up too soon and becoming my second mother. I saw her becoming the lady of the house, relentlessly giving utmost care and courage to all of us and trying to keep the house safe and sane.

The year of 2020 came with all its own:

In this year when the world was fighting against the pandemic, we were busy fighting with the odds life had thrown to us. Our family was going through a lot. Mom was completely fine till we returned home from Kolkata. We reached home on 8th February and she fell sick from 9th, gradually revealing to us that she had been suffering from Anxiety Disorders. She was severely sick for several months. That phase of our life was nothing less than a nightmare, maybe, it was something more than that.

Watching my mom having seizures was the most terrible thing I have ever seen in life.

We two sisters became stronger within a moment. We started nursing, feeding and taking care of mom. My sister and I took the responsibility of the whole household alone and we did it alternatively. One day I did it all and she studied, the next day she did it all and I came back to my work. At a point, due to the delayed diagnosis of the disease and wrong dosage of the medicines, mom’s health became worse. Dad went out of mind completely, standing helpless and continuously finding a way out. That phase was the worst one of all. It was between the month of May 2020 to July 2020. Those three months, mom was almost like a new born baby who only knows to respond to a few of emotions. She was having frequent emotional outburst, only to be pacified by her daughters. She spent sleepless days and nights at a stretch for several months. In one word, things became the worst at that time. And we were helpless.

Oil Painting of us by my sister Saheli Nath

But, I am the lucky one who has the amazing sister by her side, always. That time, my sister was always there with me and she did all the daily chores everyday. She did the cooking, feeding and nursing to mom, and then studied late at night. I went to help her for an hour or two, but she did all the things single handed. She gave me time to work on my writing projects.

Before that, I had lost many things in life, so my sister didn’t want me to give up my first ebook due to these circumstances. In the month of May 2020, when my mom was very sick, I fell on tears, hiding it from all and shedding tears in a lonely corner of the house. I cried, I broke, I felt helpless, but still I worked on my first ebook, because it was again my sister who was constantly beside me to motivate me to work more. That’s why, today I proudly call the book is not only mine, it’s ours. The journey doesn’t belong to only me, rather, it belongs to us.

Here I want to quote few lines from a letter I have written to my sister:

This phase of our lives bonded us together like the guitar that was waiting for long in the attic of the house. As if, it was eagerly waiting for strumming the most beautiful note of sisterhood and when this happened, I realized an amazing kind of bond between us. That we hear each other’s unsaid words. That we feel each other’s unspoken emotions. That we read each other’s unfinished sentences.

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When it comes to personal development, we are there together, again. I have realized that if we wish to develop a strong connection and beautiful bonding with our siblings or the ones we love most, we need three pillars of life: love, faith, and the power of togetherness to build resilience.

Now I want to share with you how we learn life’s important lessons together. We learn together, we grow together.

Embracing gratitude for peace of mind:

Gratitude has a power within. The power that can do miracle. When things go wrong in every way, just hold on and be grateful for the things that are still good in your life. They have the positive vibes within and this act of being grateful will work as a mirror. Showing gratitude helps to calm the mind and eventually, you will begin to accept things as they are. It helps to embrace the peace of mind.

Love, a pure source of strength and courage:

Love can do wonders. Love teaches you the beautiful facts of life, more beautifully. Love is a pure feeling and it can heal your soul. Love has a healing power and I have realized, love has a great power to protect your peace. The purity of love and prayer protect you from all negativities around.

Faithfulness, a great source of building resilience:

Have faith in yourself and in your soul sister. When we are together on a journey, we always respect each other. We have faith in our bonding and thus, we stick through the storm together. It helps us to build resilience. Trust each other to the core. Whatever be the situation, always keep faith in your bonding. With this faith, you can swim the ocean, too.

Finding happiness in the form of togetherness:

Mom calls us twins. Although we share a five years gap between us, yet we are more like twin sisters. We stay together always. Anything we do, we do it together. Togetherness defines us. Since childhood, we share a strong bonding of love, faith, and togetherness between us. We stay happy this way, always.

Praising the marvels around us and learning from them:

When you have a few things in life and a very few people around you, the only way to cherish life’s brighter side is collecting the little beauties from the walk of life and treasure them to receive life’s blessings. Whatever you have right now, just hold them tight. Appreciate all the little things you have in your arms, don’t let them go. Live life to the fullest.

Constantly working for our personal development:

We work on our personal development. We meditate daily, practice mindfulness, read spiritual books and learn from everything. Whenever we learn something new, we share that learnings between us. Thus we gather knowledge together.

Trusting the process:

Last but not the least, I want to say that the best way to lead a peaceful life is trusting the process. Have a little hope in your heart that one day, everything will be fine. Things have fallen apart, it was your destiny. But have faith in your ability, trust the universe. God is always there with you. Things will fall into place certainly.

You just need to hold on a little longer.

Hold on a little longer,

Things will be fine,

Trust me,

One day, definitely.

The sun will rise again,

We will have the rainbow after the rain,

Storms will pass, have faith on us,

We will have the sunshine in our corridor.

Look, we still have the tiny ray there.

We still have the blossoms of hope in our hearts,

We still have the faith on us.

The storm will pass.

Stick through the thunder, it will end soon.

And there will be a brighter tomorrow,once again.

We will fight the storm together,

We will defy the destiny, together.

We will rise and shine, together.

Together we will bring hope and peace to our home,

The rooms will be dancing with smiles and laughter,

Things will be fine, one day, definitely.

You just need to hold on a little longer.

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I am a part of the women supporting women community #WSWBlogHop and I truly believe that we should support, empower each other and grow together.

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I am Swarnali, an Engineer, a Writer, an aspiring Life Coach and a Peace Messenger. I like discovering the blissful truths of life. This blog is a potpourri of my literary offerings. May this journey lead you towards a life full of peace and purpose.

43 thoughts on “We grow together: Seven Ways to Fight the Storm with Togetherness

  1. This is such a beautiful post, Swarnali! So true, ‘Sisterhood is a beautiful bond of love, faith, and togetherness’. I have a clan of sisters, and I can relate to each and every emotion you have expressed here so lovingly and heartwarmingly.
    The oil painting by Saheli is stunning with such beautiful portrayal of sentiments.
    An absolute delight! Loved every word of your emotional outpour ❤😊

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  2. The tough times that built you two even stronger are heartwrenching, and we pray you both only shine bright through happiness all around always. Keep well and continue spreading light, as you fulfill your dreams. Best wishes always! Keep inspiring everyone. 🤗

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  3. Very very inspiring to read your e-book journey dear Swarnali. No wonder your book has all those pearls of wisdom reflecting through each page and each word of it. As you have very well described there are these pillars we lean on in life during the difficult times…. And those far and few bonds that shine and glow in the dark times…that hold us together. More strength and more power to both of you sisters. And I marvel the way you both have woven your difficulties in your individual talents. Yes, do hold on… Just a little longer… And at the end of the tunnel the bright sunlight does await… Smiling and shining bright 😊

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  4. This is such a heartfelt post that I had tears in my eyes. Kudos to you and your sister for standing by each other and making it through such difficult times.
    A lot to learn from you my dear.
    Keep shinning and being the blessed soul that you are.

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  5. Dear Swarnali, I remember you telling me about some personal difficulties in your life earlier this year, but I had no clue the situation was this bad. I really hope your mother’s disease has been diagnosed correctly now and she is on the path to recovery? As for sisters, I don’t have one myself, but I can attest to an unshakeable bond that belongs only to siblings and I could completely identify with your feelings here.

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    1. Yes Noor, by God’s grace, she is on her way of recovery. Keep supporting this way always. Means a lot dear. I totally agree, any kind of sibling bond is just incredible thing. It’s so pure and innocent. Thanks for reading Noor. Eagerly waiting for yours.

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  6. Such a heartfelt post, Swarnali. I knew you had a bad phase earlier this year but how hard it was could feel through your post. We, too are three sisters and share a special bond. We can share anything on earth with each other. I could feel and relate with each word. God bless you both with his choicest blessings.

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    1. Di I can’t thank enough you anytime. I feel blessed to have a special friendship with you Di. Thanks for all the love you have for both of us. Means a lot Di. ❤🙂

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  7. It’s hard to believe what you both endure every day. and the strength you have shown in putting together the book is commendable. I am so impressed with your talents and I want to see you succeed every day in life. lots of love and hugs from me to both of you.

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    1. That means a lot dear Urvashi. You all are my biggest strength in this journey. Thanks for being such an amazing friend dear. 🙂

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  8. You rocked it dear. That is a sisterhood that is always together, To make you stronger and face the world with a smile. Beautiful post. More power& bliss to the wonderful sisterhood. Loads of love – Sivaranjini

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  9. During tough times, we realise what we are capable of. Through this difficult situation, your bond with your sister got deeper, so this is definitely a silver lining in the cloud! Painting is beautiful. I agree with you, gratitude brings peace of mind.

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  10. Hey Swarnali.I hear you girl. This is a very heartfelt post. You are lucky you have this sibling bonding. Just hang in there and stay positive. This too shall pass. I know it sounds cliche but it does. I have been into a hell hole for many years and it is only now after 16 years that I have found the silver lining. Hope your mom is all good soon. Gratitude always and cherish your loved ones. God Bless you.

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    1. Thank you so much ma’am. Harjeet ma’am believe me you are my inspiration. I have read your story during a blog hop and I am so moved my your strong will power. Take my bow ma’am. Thank you so much for your blessing. 😇

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  11. Swarnali, I can totally relate to the feelings of the sisterhood. We are 3 sisters and I have elder and younger sister so I am blessed to feel both the love and responsibilities. Glad to know that you and your family came out as winners from the situation. The poetry and the letter are so heartfelt. It has been long time I have written a letter to them, shall do it soon.

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  12. Sisters are blessings that when together are like a wall no one could break.. Swarnali, honestly no one can imagine the pain your family has gone through. But as you said hold on to the better future and it will all be fine and good one day. I hope your mother is getting better now.

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    1. Yes Akansha, by His grace, mom is recovering gradually now. Thanks for reading my post dear. And thanks for coming up with such great opportunities to write more. Thanks dear. ❤🙂

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  13. ohh Swarnali. I don’t have words to say how much your post touched my heart. Not just because I completely understand the special bond sisters share because we are also two sisters but because how you two stood staring despite of all the odds. I am sure it would have been a toughest phase of your life. But you have Saheli sailed through it. I feel such situations make is stronger.

    Loved the painting by Saheli.

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    1. You said it Alpana. Really now we two are emerged as stronger than before. We grew up in these days.

      Thanks for all the love dear. Means much.☺❤

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  14. Oh my beautiful bubbly human being 😘 I know the feeling of having a younger sister and when they do these grown up things, it’s unbelievable! I’m so sorry to hear that you had to go through a difficult phase earlier this year. I hope your mother is feeling better now. Once again congratulations on your book, Love! Hugs to that little sister of yours!

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    1. Thank you so much dear Ranjini. I really adore your baby sister a lot. Thanks for stopping by here. Thanks for being such an amazing friend of mine. ❤☺

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  15. I had tear in my eyes while reading your post and not finding proper words to express my emotions. Being a mommy of two girls I could feel the amazing bond of sisterhood. And like you, my both girls share same kind of love and care for each others. I could understand your concern regarding Aunty’s health and hats off to both of you for dealing this situation with so much courage and bravery. Wishing her a speedy recovery. You always touch my heart with your powerful words and emotions. God bless you dear. May you get lots of success and happiness in future.

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    1. Thank you so much Dr. Surbhi. I love your daughters too. Whenever I see their photographs it remind me of two of us. Thanks for all the love and blessings. Means a lot to me. 😇🙏🏻

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  16. I am hearing you with all my ears dear. Can’t forget those two days, first, when you shared you mom’s situation for the very first time with me and second day when you told that your mom smiled and laughed after months. The happiness was clearly visible in your words. You are blessed with a precious sibling bond, you both break together, faced together, fought back together and eventually you both bloomed and win the race against all odds. Reading about your alternate duties ideas really left me teary eyes kudos girls. I can completely relate with this situation, went through the same. Touchwood girls. And yes I loved oil painting by Saheli.

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    1. I can’t thank you enough dear Archana. Really I feel blessed to have you all with me in those days. Thanks a lot for being my amazing friends. Love and hugs dearie. ❤❤

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  17. Such a beautiful write up of the strength and love of a family. It’s awesome to have siblings but I don’t know how it is to have a sister because I lost mine when I was tiny. But, your mom is lucky to have you two. God bless.

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    1. Thanks Cindy. Sorry to hear about your loss dear. We’re always with you, just a ping away. May you have all the love that you deserve. Love and hugs dear.

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